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- September 23rd, 2008, 11:28 AM #1
Adjusting to Life in Pakistan
Just arrived a couple of days ago. It sucks. I realize now how lucky we are to have lived in the U.S. I don't know how I'm going to spend 5 years like this. Homesick, depressed, eh it sucks. Anyone with me on this one?September 23rd, 2008, 11:33 AM #2September 23rd, 2008, 03:28 PM #3September 23rd, 2008, 07:51 PM #4
it doesnt get better but you get used to it.
just think how great itll be when its finally done. 5 years will seem like nothing then and itll have been worth it.September 23rd, 2008, 08:23 PM #5
it's a genuine feeling but some sacrifices have to be made to get something in return... u r in Karachi, where about? try to get into the rhythm of the city... there r plenty of places to hang around... make friends, good ones, that will help u get thru those five demanding years... study hard but also take time to reflect back and enjoy ur freetime
such feelings are normal... God i know i was so depressed the very first year i began my med studies and MashAllah, now i have cleared my 3rd year examinations and will be starting 4th year soon... Have faith, remain determined and never give up...
Allah (SWT) helps those who help themselves! #happySeptember 23rd, 2008, 08:37 PM #6
eh...i miss the u.s. so much. And yeah, I'm hoping the five years fly by and the very second I'm flying back.
I don't even feel like opening books and studying. Must get to that asap.September 23rd, 2008, 10:46 PM #7
It gets better. Certain things will continue to suck, no matter how long you've been here but once you get into a routine it gets a lot easier. Plus since you've only been here for a few days i'm sure you're probably not even properly set up. You'll be surprised at how much stuff you can get that's pretty similar to back home, just takes time to find out where to go for things.MedGrunt signing out...September 23rd, 2008, 11:08 PM #8
where in IL u from cobra?Never let the fear of striking out, keep you from playing the game.September 25th, 2008, 01:49 AM #9
naperville area. Man it's really tough here. I miss family back home (especially mom a lot).
I'm living in my phuppo's house upstairs (one nice-sized bedroom, bathroom, kitchen, small lobby). I have a UPS and an AC. However, thing is that I feel like the next five years will consist of me coming home from college and studying my life away. My goal inshallah is to ace the Steps and I know I have to put in 6+ hours of studying everyday, but just thinking about living here for the next 5 years gives me creeps. Eh.September 25th, 2008, 05:07 PM #10
what school do you go to? do you have cousins your age? trying going out with them or with friends from school. it doesn't have to be all studying. but then again this program is condensing our usual 8 years into 5. are there any activities at school you could join? as for homesickness....i have no advice for you on that because i also get it REALLY bad. i'm gonna miss my family sooo much. i know what you mean. even when i stayed at my khalas house it just wasn't the same. shes not my mom and being at her house with her kids made me feel even worse good thing there is internet and phone though, right? and just think get through this year and you can go home for the summer. our parents are putting in so much time & money among other sacrifices so lets make their efforts worth it in the endSeptember 25th, 2008, 06:55 PM #11MedGrunt signing out...September 25th, 2008, 07:27 PM #12
Okay so I'm seriously considering going back because the life here sucks. I feel depressed. The college is an hour away and i have to take 2 buses to get there. All that dirt, hassle and waste of 2 hours just to get to college and back. I'm just stuck in a room and i don't think I can take this for 5 years, let alone a month.
Not only that, but it seems the people at the college (almost all foreign) are there not to actually study seriously but to screw around. Thus, they seem cheap to me and I don't want to associate with those kind of people who aren't striving for a bright future as a doc.
Overall, it sucks. I really hope it changes because I really don't want to go back because I'll be behind a year and my rents will be pissed.
ehhhhSeptember 25th, 2008, 08:42 PM #13
are you at DIMC?September 25th, 2008, 10:18 PM #14
I'd say it's fairly common for everyone to go through a depression stage upon arrival. There's plenty of things that don't even come close to comparing to back home and never will. It all depends on your attitude though, if you make up your mind to stick it out it'll be easier to get used to things. I realize that may sound silly, but it's really true.
Yeah I agree that the maturity level tends to be a bit on the lower side...ok a lot lower. It's true for both locals and foreigners. In my opinion a lot of people are ridiculously over dramatic. Generally foreigners that come straight after high school are immature for the same reason that many of the locals are -- they're used to being babied by their parents and have never lived on their own before. Hopefully once you get to know people better you'll figure out which ones are more tolerable than others -- there's bound to be some decent people in your class. Give them a chance, the decent people are probably just hiding. And if not, just remember that after 5 years you'll never have to talk to them again. #yes
It's important to remember what a great opportunity this is. Not only is it a 5 year program, but best of all you're already in...guaranteed to graduate as a doctor [as long as you study properly]. Going back home, doing undergrad, and then waiting to see whether or not you even get accepted into med school is a big gamble.
Basically, don't give up just yet. Give yourself some more time to get used to all the changes. Oh and try to get closer housing. #coolMedGrunt signing out...September 25th, 2008, 11:40 PM #15
man..this guy kinda sounds like me but that was like a long time ago (2 days ago)
i dont think ive ever studied 6 hrs a day, maybe for some test..........heck there were stretches of days where i studied absolutely zilch............
though i know ur pain, you can study for hours and hours on end if u were in ur own home with ur own family, but its tuff here..................ull get used to it.September 26th, 2008, 01:01 AM #16
appreciate that motivating response. Thing is I realize how good of an opportunity this is and that it's a matter of 5 years (well 4.5 since I'll be going back once or twice a year), but just gotta toughen it up and get through this.September 26th, 2008, 01:06 AM #17September 26th, 2008, 01:45 AM #18
wow. that's where i'm going this year. it seems like a good school though. i definitely think you should move closer to the school traffic is crazy and pr obably causes most of your stress. and cut back a little on the studying and find ways to clear your mind.September 26th, 2008, 01:51 AM #19
are you still in the u.s?September 26th, 2008, 02:31 AM #20
yeah but dude listen i know EXACTLY what you're going through. the whole "being stuck in 4 walls" that was the story of my life. i went to pk in august and stayed for four weeks. i was going INSANE. i knew that if i stayed there and waited until school started i would hate it sooo frickin much to the point where i couldnt take it and stay here in michigan for college. but the problem was i was around negative people. and i met with some family friends who were soo positive about the whole thing that it totally changed my mind and now im coming to dimc in about a week. the thing is we have to realize that this is not america. we cannot just hop in a car and go whereever we want, whenever we want. but focus on your studies (the main reason why people like you and me go to pk for med school) yet at the same time go out. find good friends that support you. karachi has some really nice places so going out to dinner or coffee or whatever isn't going to hurt. if you're from the incoming 08 batch, join our group on facebook its called DIMC-class of 2013. everyone on there is very nice and very supportive, because in the end we're all on the same boat together.
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